According to the Mayo Clinic:

In any given day, the average newborn cries for two to three hours.

When you first get your twins home, it will seem like they are crying all the time.

Why?

Because they are.

When one is quiet, the other may very well be crying. So your perception is that the crying never stops.

You may be tempted to rush to soothe your babies. Take a moment and wait.

If you try to immediately soothe your twins every time they cry, you will wear yourself out and go crazy. It is natural for babies to cry. Don’t expect complete silence in your house with twins.

Initially when your babies cry, you should assess why they are crying.

Over time you will learn to recognize the different types of cries. Babies have their “I’m hungry” cry. Then there is the “I’m sleepy” or “I’m poopy” cry. Or even the “My arm is stuck in the crib slats” cry.

Listen to the cry, see why your baby is crying, then start to recognize the pattern.

You’ll soon find yourself jumping out of your chair and running to the “My arm is stuck” cry versus waiting a few seconds to see if the “I’m tired” cry stops since she is already in bed.

Is your baby crying? Relax. Take a breath and then take action.

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